“Sacred White August,” we called it. It was a month that a dozen or so of my friends and I took a vow of introspection, self-affirmation, and sisterhood. It was a month we vowed to wear white each day as a visible reminder of our commitment. Some of us gave things up. Like pork and […]
Instead of weighing her voice against my own, her experience against my own, or her choice against my own, I had to ditch the scale. There was room for the value of both of our voices, experience, and choices. In order for both of our voices to be valued in our relationship I had to be willing to speak forward, with her, and not down or at her. The strength to claim my own autonomy and affirm hers meant that we were getting somewhere instead of dueling out her values over mine. There was no war to be won over her body.
I’ve never understood why being Pro-Woman is a leftist value and being Pro-Parent is a rightist value. Why, in the pro-choice conversation are women abandoned by the feminist movement once they become parents? Why are women the most invested people in their own bodies and in their fetuses, but not trusted as invested caretakers once […]
“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.” – Peggy O’Mara The Power of Other’s Words I have always been described as “intense.” I remember my dad reminding me from a young age and into adulthood, of the importance of “balance.” I think “balance” for him held a meaning that was important […]
55 Ways Your Privilege Might be Showing was awfully triggering for a lot of people. Privilege is a hard conversation for most people most times. I think what made this list particularly challenging is that the audience reading the post is already oppressed. It’s hard to be open and empathize when our own pain over our […]
Sometimes being vocal about the maternity care crisis means that my words make people uncomfortable. It means that there is the potential for people to react out of their own emotional triggers. Because that’s what we all do. We hold emotional connections to things and when those emotional buttons are set off by an idea, […]