Earlier this week the CDC came out with recommendations that basically suggest that all women from the onset of their fist period until menopause refrain from drinking alcohol unless they are on birth control in order to reduce the risk of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. Because, well, although birth control sometimes fails, it would be ludicrous […]
Last week, (yet another) article came out detailing the case of a woman who is suing her doctor for pressuring her into a cesarean against her will. There is so much to deconstruct within the narrative of that story, but I want to focus on the commentary from the Obstetrician in the case. I have […]
To be pro-choice is to believe in the fundamental rights of women to be the deciders of their reproductive fates. From contraception to abortion to birth and parenting, reproductive justice is the radical notion that women are people who are entitled to the same rights to make decisions about their bodies as non-pregnant people. […]
We hear the stories frequently. The Midwife-Gone-Medical or the Doula-Acting-Renegade. They exist as platforms for the need for well-defined scopes of practice. But it’s not often we get to put a face or humanity behind the stories. They exist as pure propaganda, Allegorical creatures conjured for the greater good, our own stay-in-line benefit. The Person […]
The bloody scenes of women are always suspect. Our insides, the things our bodies expel – the mucous, the shedding, the clots and clumps of uterine lining and pre-formed babies. We must keep it neat. We must follow the rules. ………………………. “I can’t find you. For three days you’re consumed…. I don’t know where you […]
It’s no secret that no one really cares about women’s safety. Especially not when there’s a fetus at stake. One only needs to look at the current standards of care in birth to see how little we care about women’s health…
Instead of weighing her voice against my own, her experience against my own, or her choice against my own, I had to ditch the scale. There was room for the value of both of our voices, experience, and choices. In order for both of our voices to be valued in our relationship I had to be willing to speak forward, with her, and not down or at her. The strength to claim my own autonomy and affirm hers meant that we were getting somewhere instead of dueling out her values over mine. There was no war to be won over her body.
Being neck-deep in reproductive and birth justice work, I don’t often allow myself to venture outside of the feelings of rage that fuels the immediacy of the work at hand. If I tapped into sadness every time, I’d be crying all day every day. This film, though, gave me pause to sit in the deep and dark emotions that accompany this work – the emotions that women collectively experience when faced with the SO MANY obstacles that stand in our way of our autonomy and self-empowerment and joy and accomplishment. The self-talk of the women in the film, I think, really clenched this sadness. …How programmed women are to be blamed. How ingrained we are to ignore the systemic problems of the institution and instead cast it onto the women, themselves; onto ourselves….
My friend, Katie, read a spoken word poem about being treated as a vessel at a pro-choice rally and vigil – I had no idea how powerful it was going to be. A few weeks later we made it to an open mic poetry reading, where she read it again, and this time we recorded […]
I’ve never understood why being Pro-Woman is a leftist value and being Pro-Parent is a rightist value. Why, in the pro-choice conversation are women abandoned by the feminist movement once they become parents? Why are women the most invested people in their own bodies and in their fetuses, but not trusted as invested caretakers once […]