Men don’t get to be vocal about their disappointment about abortion, while women are still expected to sit in silence and in shame. Men don’t get to stake a claim in the abortion conversation, when the bodily burden of pregnancy or abortion will always be carried by those with a uterus.
The statistical disparity is telling. Birthing folks are not offered support for their choices. Forced cesareans are the extreme examples of the brutal birth culture of slapping women around until they mouse-up or shut up or say, “yes, sir.” But there are countless other ways birthing people endure harsh treatment, from forced vaginal exams to forced separation from their babies to everything in between. One woman’s gruesome, filmed, forced episiotomy from last year highlights this rampant culture of mental abuse and hospital-sanctioned rape. She’s having trouble finding a lawyer to take her case – even with the damning footage. Because the baby is okay. And apparently slicing a woman’s vagina twelve times like she’s a swath of fabric on the counter at JoAnn’s isn’t a mutilating enough injury. What does this say about the established value of women in the judicial system? Did we ever actually come off the shelf as baby-making containers?
2014 was a full year. For my family, it held extremes of financial terror and relational bliss. As an individual, this year led me into a deep, internal, and very personal exploration of my femininity and relationships with other womyn. As a parent, I continued to struggle with being present enough, loving enough, and forgiving enough – […]
Women have held their place as an inhuman conceptual idea – one that is clothed in the dirty rags of one’s imagination so as to maintain a believable discourse. Society, at large, feels the need to leave it that way because as soon as we begin to actually listen to women’s stories and experiences it becomes complicated. We can no longer maintain our pretend image of what kinds of women make certain choices. We have to begin to acknowledge that choices are personal, that women are best positioned to know what is best for themselves and their families, and that women, alone, should be held with the responsibility and right of making their own healthcare decisions.
So, Time apologized. And I say, so what? So what about a popular national media outlet that included “feminist” in their list of banned words? So what? So what that their inclusion of a word channeled IMMENSE media attention their way? So what that the inclusion of a word defining a centuries-old social movement calling for […]
So, TIME Magazine thinks the word, “feminist” ranks up there with annoying words and phrases that should be banned. Phrases like, “I can’t even” and “sorry, not sorry,” and “literally.” Yeah, feminist. It’s so annoying to be continually reminded of our STILL ass backwardness that half the population is oppressed simply because of their gender. […]
Birth and reproductive justice issues are, of course, human rights issues, but more specifically, they are rights issues grounded in oppression that is gender-based. There are some who argue that we shouldn’t make these issues part of a feminist platform, however, to make violations in birth or restrictions to women’s autonomy purely a human rights […]