Women have held their place as an inhuman conceptual idea – one that is clothed in the dirty rags of one’s imagination so as to maintain a believable discourse. Society, at large, feels the need to leave it that way because as soon as we begin to actually listen to women’s stories and experiences it becomes complicated. We can no longer maintain our pretend image of what kinds of women make certain choices. We have to begin to acknowledge that choices are personal, that women are best positioned to know what is best for themselves and their families, and that women, alone, should be held with the responsibility and right of making their own healthcare decisions.
If you live life as a woman you know that in any given day or week something like this will happen to you. You'll be walking briskly down the bread aisle for a package of rolls to go with your soup, while your family waits in the parking lot, and as you race by a young man, he'll stand back, look you up and down, and say, "How you doin'?" "Fine," you'll respond, without breaking stride. "You look fly today, by the way!" he'll shout after you, and you'll round the corner as fast as possible, looking over your shoulder the whole time you're checking out. You'll note the absurdity of the exchange. The fact that the personal-space-invader was young enough to be your child, that he was at the store with who appeared to be his mother, bent over a cart of bread, oblivious, while her grown male son leered and sneered and snarled at the female patrons of the store.
So, Time apologized. And I say, so what? So what about a popular national media outlet that included “feminist” in their list of banned words? So what? So what that their inclusion of a word channeled IMMENSE media attention their way? So what that the inclusion of a word defining a centuries-old social movement calling for […]
So, TIME Magazine thinks the word, “feminist” ranks up there with annoying words and phrases that should be banned. Phrases like, “I can’t even” and “sorry, not sorry,” and “literally.” Yeah, feminist. It’s so annoying to be continually reminded of our STILL ass backwardness that half the population is oppressed simply because of their gender. […]
“The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.” – Peggy O’Mara The Power of Other’s Words I have always been described as “intense.” I remember my dad reminding me from a young age and into adulthood, of the importance of “balance.” I think “balance” for him held a meaning that was important...
Birth and reproductive justice issues are, of course, human rights issues, but more specifically, they are rights issues grounded in oppression that is gender-based. There are some who argue that we shouldn’t make these issues part of a feminist platform, however, to make violations in birth or restrictions to women’s autonomy purely a human rights […]
This piece is in collaboration with Blog Action Day. Thousands of bloggers are joining to write about the theme, #inequality. I read an allegory once in which a woman goes to see her OB-Gyn. She’s just found out she’s pregnant and is distressed because she already has a one year old and she is not […]
Last week when the HeforShe Campaign was launched, my partner saw it first. He emailed it to me first thing in the morning, with “?” in the subject line. Per usual, in conversations about feminism, he asked me to go first in offering my thoughts. My male partner is a self-identified feminist, but he openly […]
55 Ways Your Privilege Might be Showing was awfully triggering for a lot of people. Privilege is a hard conversation for most people most times. I think what made this list particularly challenging is that the audience reading the post is already oppressed. It’s hard to be open and empathize when our own pain over our […]
All pregnant folks are disadvantaged when it comes to birth. But, always, the already-disadvantaged within society suffer greatest under oppressive systems. Some of us unwittingly invoke privilege when we center our conversations about birth justice around simplistic, single-minded solutions. Here are some things that ways to tell if your privilege might be showing. You may […]
We’ve been talking a lot about vulnerability and triggers lately. The #emptybucket campaign has made many of us shift in our seats, considering the possibility of verbalizing our traumatic experiences of being treated as vessels. The other day, I talked about things that have triggered me since my birth trauma on the Birth Anarchy Facebook […]